hotness makes the heart grow fonder

I once read somewhere (can't find anything to back this up) that people generally consider faces to be the most attractive part of themselves or another person, largely because we spend so much time looking at them. In fact, it continued, the more one stares at one's own face in the mirror, the more attractive that face becomes.

I disagree with this on so many levels, first and foremost being that constantly staring at myself in mirrors has done nothing to improve my self image, though it does mean that I have an intense appreciation for Nada Surf's "in the mirror."

Attractive people derive their self-confidence from constant social affirmations. Less attractive people seek alternate sources of social approval, and are rewarded as such. Hence, the derivation of the nerdy brunette.

Again, a problem: what of people who miss out on this, somehow? What if they (I) genuinely have nothing to offer?

I'm told, again and again, that unself-confident people are the best companions. This strikes me as odd every time, but perhaps this is related to my flawed understanding of where one is to derive self-confidence from.

Are less self-confident people better to date? Why are they lacking in self-confidence, if they're so great? Hm. Odd.

But somehow, it's true: most of my favourite people have ridiculously low self-confidence in comparsion to my esteem of them.

Perhaps I need to spend some more time alone with my mirror.